To wait or not to wait

Is NOT the question to ask

Dear Elsie

So I decided to write about something I've been dreading to write about: Virginity and Christianity

Ohk so when we were younger             -I'm talking ages 10 and early teens, for some of us who played with toys till we were in high school 🙈-          we thought the opposite sex was boring right? Ohk lemme make this simple ...

Blessing at the age of 10

Alright I was a girly girl I thought boys were annoying and the world would do just fine without them, I thought I'd never ever have a boyfriend cause boys are stupid (I was a feisty one), I had a doll, Felicia was her name, my aunt loved to watch Felicia Mabuza's show that's were I got the name, uhhhmmm I was doing very well at school and that was my top focus, I loved playing, I loved toys, loooved swimming and didn't care how I looked in a swim suit

Now Blessing a few years later didn't think boys were so bad, I got along with a few and hey life was ohk.
Blessing underwent some body changes, had her first period and started feeling a lot differently about everything, life, School wasn't so important anymore, my attention was divided, studying was a drag, I realised I loved music, well writting I loved from as far as I can remember in my childhood, boys ... well my feelings for boys changed, I had my first crush, and then my first boyfriend, at first kissing was gross but later it was ... I guess ohk? It wasn't really about love or anything like that, it was about me doing it, everyone else was doing it so hey😐, my first boyfriend's duty in my life was actually to carry my school bag after school when he accompanied me home🙈 and I guess I kissed him as a 'thank you' you know,  those kisses on the cheek type of kisses

I got into more serious relationships and, y'all know there's some decision making now, to wait or not to wait, especially if you're a Christian like I am, church taught you that Sex Before Marriage is a Sin, just dating alone was wrong in the church I went to

"If you’re trying to share the Gospel with others, it’s probably best not to make someone else feel inferior, especially when it comes to virginity and “the wait.” words from a page called 'To Save A Life'

I feel that Virginity has become our Holy Grail, not just as Christians but also in our homes, Lol some of us's parents aren't hippies, sex is a taboo in our families, you just don't do it nje end of discussion! Keeping your virginity is the one thing we want to achieve so bad but it's hard to, We want to give our later spouses the honour of being our first but how many pull through? A lot have failed to and for that reason they lose themselves in their paths to find themselves in other people, cause they now don't feel welcome at church anymore and the church has taught them that sex is bad and dirty and God doesn't love people who do it ... at the wrong time

Our Holy Grail as Christians has shifted, We should, more than anything, strive to have a solid relationship with God, strive to know him more, understand his things and when we do strive to help those who don't get it to finally do.
As Christians we've neglected the work of Jesus on the cross and took it upon ourselves to strive to please God and when we realise that we can't fulfill the laws we back slide in our Christian walk, cause we feel guilty and dirty and unworthy of God's love and favour

Jesus died on the cross because God saw how we were failing to live by the laws, I've realized that the laws in the Bible are to show us how we actually can't follow them so we can give up our efforts, give our life to Christ and let him help us to follow them so we can be like him.
I think my mom is a wonderful parent and want to be like her to my kids, the only way I can do that is if I let her teach me how ... Same applies in our strive to be like Christ, we want to be like him but we don't give up and let him help us be like him

Don't get me wrong I'm all about doing what's Biblical, it's good to wait till you are married before having sex I don't, not even for a second doubt that, I mean even when we weigh the results of doing it at the wrong time there's more bad to good, BUT! don't keep your virginity it in the aim of pleasing God, only by receiving Christ God is well pleased with you and trust me nothing you do or don't do will make him love you any more or less ... Just let go and let Christ, he'll lead you into greater things you'll one day look back and realize that he's effortlessly walked you out of a pit you were busy digging up for yourself.

The Lord says come as you are, he'll make you better ...

We are like a little kid who is trying to tie his shoe but can't get it right and still doesn't want his dad to help him
"I can  do it myself" he says the dad is just there like
"but you keep messing it up, let me help you"
once he gives up and let's the dad help... 👟 everything works out (The HolySpirit just gave me this scenario🙏)
... Stop trying, rest and let him, you'll see just how easier it is to do what's right when you let him help you, when you let him teach you, the Bible constantly calls Jesus 'Teacher' well now you know one more reason to a lot, why

Have you given up all to Christ or not?
Now that's the question to ask

😘😘😘